Ever wonder why some types tend to not get along?

One of our friends and Enneagram Lovers, Everett, started a topic about just that in our Enneagram Lovers Club.

From this thread came a great discussion about Type Ones and Type Sixes. I hadn’t heard about any issues between Ones and Sixes before, but Everett and James, a One, discovered they had similar issues with their counterparts.

Here’s a snippet:

James: …till this day most of the closest friends I have had, have been Sixes. But, when it comes to our belief structures, they always conflict with one another, and that tends to make for a lot of resentment in our friendships, or relationships at times. They are always clinging to their beliefs, and I am always the one challenging them. What I hope to be a debate, and exchange of ideas, turns out to be an argument. It upsets me when I am no longer a reliable source of security for that person.”

Everett: I have a friend who is a one and even though we have been friends for years there is always this tension between us. Like competitive brothers. Each trying to show each other how well we are doing (on a very subtle level). So even though we have been friends for years on some level I still wonder whether he ‘likes’ me or not!”

James: I have also been competitive with some of my Six friends at times! …I believe what it comes down to is that there is a huge lack of communication between these two types due to such a difference in the way we establish and express our belief structures. I can always make a connection with a Six, but when we start to delve into more personal or in depth topics, there is always confrontation. It really is great talking about this with you.”

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